Sunday, October 27, 2019

Monday Motivator #11 2019-20

October 25, 2019 Candy Bombs

By Brenda Power
There’s nothing as cozy as a piece of candy and a book.
                                                   Betty MacDonald
“This is my corner,” Kim Kabrich, an interventionist, said as she showed me her office. It was literally a corner, constructed with partial walls to create a space for Kim. Once you sit down, you forget that it’s a corner because Kim created a warm place to plan and have conversations with colleagues. It’s easy to get lost in deep conversation, until your train of thought is broken by voices on the other side of the wall.
Because of the partial walls and the fact that Kim’s office is in the heart of the building, just off the media center, it’s easy to catch conversations from others. The voices are close, and the conversation is meant to be private. Kim reaches for some candy out of the dish in the center of her table and announces, “Incoming!” and then tosses the candy over the wall.
There are giggles and Kim adds, “Hope you have a sweet day.”
“Thanks!” comes over the wall and we don’t hear any more of the conversation.
I smile at Kim. “Now there’s a tactic to avoid negativity—bombard people with candy!”
Kim laughed. “After school has ended for the day, you wouldn’t believe the things I hear. Some heartwarming stories of a caring student and some frustrating words from another. So I decided to toss candy, as an easy way to remind people that we need to have fun and keep positive.”
It’s not always easy to take a stand against negativity, but I like Kim’s approach. It makes me wonder how else we can take “sweet” stances against toxic conversations in our corners of the world. Perhaps candy bombs are just the beginning. Maybe they are also a great use of all the leftover sweets from Halloween many of us will face next week.

Sunday, October 20, 2019

Monday Motivator #10 2019-20

How To Handle A Student Who Rejects Your Kindness

Smart Classroom Management: How To Handle A Student Who Rejects YouYou give and you give.
You give your patience and humor. You give your positivity and respect. You give your heart and hope for their future.
And they discard it. They crumble it up and toss it in the trash.
They meet your smile, your generosity, and your kindness with indifference—and even cruelty.
They roll their eyes at your attempts to build rapport. They stare off into the distance and mumble when you try to engage them in conversation.
They laugh and make fun of your mistakes and generational quirks.
Yes, you’re their teacher. You’re paid to do your job. But it still hurts, more than you care to admit.
When you think on it—as you often do—when you think about this one student, and how you’ve gone out of your way to help them and give them the benefit of the doubt, anger seeps in.
A trickle at first, it turns into a rush as all the slights and sighs and sarcasms cycle fresh through your mind.
You daydream about putting them in their place. You lay awake rehearsing a lecture they won’t soon forget. You fantasize about running into them at Target in a few years and telling them what you really think.
But maybe, just maybe . . .  your kindness frightens them.
Maybe they’ve been burned so many times and so deeply that if they allow themselves to like you—or worse, look up to you—and you let them down, the blow would be too great.
Maybe they’ve erected a hard shell over shattered trust and the possibility of disappointment and betrayal.
So you breathe. You suppress your basest urges. You shake off the resentment you’ve been hanging on to and humble yourself with memories of your own pain and struggle.
You consider all that you don’t know about this student and what may await them at home—or what may not await them.
As you stand at the doorway to your classroom greeting students as they walk in, you notice them, head down, making their way toward you. They approach, and you soften. You nod and smile simply as they walk past.
Maybe this will be the day they accept you and let you in. Maybe it will be in a week or a month or on the last day of school. Doesn’t matter. You’re going to be the leader and model and strength they can count on every day.
So you give.
You give your patience and your understanding. You give your steadiness and your consistency. You give your unrelenting, unbending, undefeatable kindness.
It’s teaching, and it’s what we do.

Sunday, October 13, 2019

Monday Motivator #9 2019-20

Helping Students Deal with Distractions




We have had the privilege of spending the last few weeks in many teachers’ classrooms supporting them as they launch their literacy workshops. The first few weeks of school are so important for making the structures and routines you want to use all year long consistent and predictable. It is amazing how exhausting it is to teach 26 youngsters to follow directions, sit in the correct spot, find their materials, not talk to the person next to them, and read! One topic that comes up again and again with the teachers we mentor is student distractibility. Distraction can play out in many forms depending on the grade level and chemistry of the class, but the concern is common across many classrooms, schools, and districts.
Distraction is a reality of life—we get distracted by many things that tug our attention and time away from the things in which we want or need to engage. The average person gets distracted six to ten times every minute, and research is also being conducted to study what is happening to the human mind in our current culture of multitasking. Over a century ago, psychologist William James asserted, “The human mind can’t actually focus on any unchanging object for more than a few seconds at a time. Focus is a paradox—it has distraction built into it. The two are symbiotic; we need both.” When we think about students in classrooms, it is no wonder they are distracted. It’s time to talk about focus with our students, embrace distraction, and discuss strategies we can use to concentrate on literacy tasks despite distractions. Here are some lessons we have been using to help kids focus:

It Happens to Everyone

As I sit in front of 26 sets of young eyes, I begin to talk about distraction: “Sometimes when I am reading, I get distracted. I hear something and look up; or I remember something I was supposed to do and I think about going to do it; or my stomach rumbles and I think about what I want to eat for lunch. Does this ever happen to you?” Twenty-five sets of eyes look around unsure, but one set takes a risk and slowly raises his hand. “Yes,” I continue, it happens to everyone.”
The risk-taker sits up a little straighter and asks,”Even teenagers?”
Trying to hold back the laughter, I look him straight in the eye and in the most serious voice I can conjure up reply, “Yes, even to teenagers.”
By beginning this conversation we make it safe to discuss it in the classroom. Rather than being frustrated by it as the teacher or embarrassed of it as the student, let’s just get the issue out there. Distraction will happen, it should happen, and it is happening. The most important question is What are we going to do about it?

Share the Research

“Did you know that scientists can now place probes on people’s brains to learn how we think and learn? One of the things scientists have learned is that the human mind is constantly being distracted from what a person is trying to attend to. This means that even if you are trying to pay attention to something, your brain becomes interested in paying attention to something else. One scientist explained, ‘We need to decide what we want to pay attention to, it just doesn’t happen. We have the ability to shift our attention and focus on what we decide is important. People who achieve great things choose to focus their attention on what they think is important.’
“Even Sir Isaac Newton, the famous scientist who discovered concepts like gravity (why things fall down) and the laws of motion (why things move), credits his discoveries to ‘having patient attention more than any other talent.’ This means that he thinks he made these discoveries because he chose to pay attention to these ideas for a long time.
“In readers’ workshop, it is easy to become distracted. You may see someone moving around, you may hear teachers meeting with other students, and you might begin to think about recess or lunch. Thumbs up if any of these things happen to you.” (Today I see lots of thumbs. I know I am making this a safe topic to talk about.) “Well, if it hasn’t happened to you yet, I promise it will. It happens to everyone, it is just how our brains work. We need to notice when it happens because if we do not notice it, then we cannot choose to refocus our attention on reading. If we want to be the best readers we can be and love reading, we need to teach ourselves how to focus our attention—just like Sir Isaac Newton. Everyone turn and talk to your partner about what tends to distract your attention from reading during readers’ workshop.” There is an explosion of conversation. We share ideas and build and add the chart titled Things That Distract Us.
“Today as you are reading, notice if you are distracted at any time. Noticing is the first step in understanding how attention works and learning how to choose to refocus our attention.”
We have found that it is powerful to share specific research findings with our students and explain why they are getting distracted. If they do not notice it is happening or understand why it is happening, then they cannot begin to use strategies to change it.

What We Can Do About It

“We have been discussing how our brains work over the last week and noticing what distracts us as we read. Yesterday, Adam shared that he was distracted during reading workshop because he saw the rain out the window and then began thinking about recess. He was wondering if it was going to be canceled. Many of you shared things that you found distracting. It is great that we are now noticing how our brains are working so that we can learn how to refocus our attention. A scientist named Dr. Desimone from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology has done research that shows we can train our brain to focus on what we want to focus on. It has been shown that we need to figure out what is distracting us and try to limit that distraction. If we become distracted, then we need to notice it and then refocus. Remember the chart we compiled of the things that distract us during reading workshop.”
Things That Distract Us During Reading Workshop
  • People talking
  • Teachers conferring
  • Announcements
  • People walking around
  • People moving
  • Things I am thinking about
  • What I can see out the window
  • My mind
  • Other books I want to read
  • Someone getting a tissue
  • Someone coming in the classroom
  • Talking to my friend
“Some of the things listed are things we can hear, some are things we can see, and some are thoughts in our mind. Turn and talk to your partner about one of these distractions and how you could help yourself not to get distracted. Let’s chart your ideas.”
Strategies to Focus Our Attention
  • Find a quiet spot to read
  • Try to not sit close to anyone
  • Plug my ears
  • Notice if I am distracted and refocus
  • Reread the section we missed in our book
  • Find books that we can really get into
  • Don’t sit near my friends
  • Try to block everything out
  • Make rules that we cannot walk around
“These are some great ideas. Today, during reading workshop, let’s try some of these strategies to focus our attention. Remember the most important thing is to notice when you are distracted, and then refocus and reread. We can train our brains to focus on what is important to us: our reading! Let’s see how it goes today.”
Our classrooms are always bustling with energy and activity. It is not realistic to expect our students to work without distraction. They need to move, chat, wonder, think, and eavesdrop from time to time. Is this behavior much different from what we do during a faculty meeting or staff development session? If we accept that distraction will happen, then we need to teach our students that “Attention is a finite resource. We are constantly making choices and we need to choose what we want to focus on” (Winifred Gallagher in Rapt: Attention and the Focused Life).  If we instill the love of reading in our students and find books our students love, we will have taken the first step. The next step is helping them each find strategies that help them focus their attention so they can become lost in a wonderful text.
To explore more of the attention and distraction research base, read Christine Rosen’s essays “The People of the Screen” and “The Myth of Multitasking.”

Sunday, October 6, 2019

Monday Motivator #8 2019-20

How To Handle Students Who Complain

Smart Classroom Management: How To Handle Students Who ComplainYou pour your heart into your job. You love your students, even when they’re not so lovable.
You plan and create interesting lessons and deliver them with energy.
So when a student complains, often within full earshot of the class, it can be infuriating.
Few things get under a teacher’s skin as deeply.
“Why do we have to do this?”
“This is sooo boring.”
“Oh no, not that again.”
It can take willpower not to reply with a sharp, “Because I said so” or “So sad, too bad.” It can be hard not to glare, fume, and hold a private grudge.
But if you can pause for a moment and remember how important it is not to create friction with your students, then you can all but eliminate complaining from your classroom.
Here’s how:
Smile
After pausing to collect yourself, your best response is to smile. Really. Just smile. They may be having a bad day. They may be tired or frustrated with something that has nothing to do with you. In which case, a smile can lighten their load.
Remember
It helps to remember that they’re just kids, and complaining is part of growing up. It’s in their DNA, and okay. While it’s smart to reflect on your lessons and how to make them better, occasional student complaining is rarely a sign you’re doing something wrong.
Empathize
Sometimes a genuine smile is all you need. But if they persist, tell them that you understand—because you do. You too were a student once and have experienced your fair share of frustration and resistance to hard work.
Explain
Students get irritated when they don’t know why you’re doing what you’re doing. So tell them. Be transparent. Studies show that when you use the word ‘because’ you’ll experience greater influence and buy-in, even if the reason is nonsensical.
Smile
There is no need to belabor the point. Give a quick reason—“because it improves your writing skills”—and then finish with warm eye contact and a final smile, or even a chuckle. You’ll usually get one in return.
Embracing the Challenge
Becoming a good student takes discipline and learning to be comfortable being uncomfortable, and as teachers we should be absolutely unapologetic about pushing the envelop every day on what they can do.
Feeling at times overwhelmed or daunted by the challenges you place before them is something all students experience. If they don’t, then they’re not growing and we’re not doing our job.
The key to getting them through those tough moments is your empathy and unwillingness to take their complaining personally.
When they know that through their struggles and weak moments you have their back—that you get it, you’ve been there, and you still believe in them—then they become empowered to overcome them.
They fight through the tedium.
They set aside their compulsion to complain and avoid difficulty, and instead embrace it as part of the pursuit of excellence you live and breathe and pursue every day.

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