Sunday, September 30, 2018

Monday Motivator #6 2018-19

How To Bring Instant Calm To Your Classroom

Smart Classroom Management: How To Bring Instant Calm To Your ClassroomOne of the biggest causes of misbehavior is excitability.
It’s also one of the hardest to fix.
The reason is that most struggling teachers just don’t notice it.
They become so used to the tension, so accustomed to the antsiness and disquiet, that they’re not even aware it exists.
A visitor, however, can feel it the moment they step through the door.
It’s palpable.
Personally, the buzz of excitability gives me the heebie-jeebies. It makes me shiver and takes willpower just to stick around for a few minutes.
The good news is that once it’s identified, once it’s determined to be the root cause of silliness, rambunctiousness, and the like, it can be corrected almost instantly with the following five strategies.
1. Breathe
You are the source of the energy in your classroom. Your students take up their cue from you. So if you’re tense and uptight, it will reflect in the behavior of your class.
One sure way to sweep out the negative vibes is to breathe, long and slow, deep through the abdomen. Relax your body and let your calm presence fill the room and carry from one student to the next.
I know it sounds new-agey, but it really works. You can feel the pressure drain from your room and actually see restlessness and excitability subside.
Just breathe and soften the muscles of your body. Not only will it have a positive effect on your students, but it will help alleviate your own mental stress and strain.
2. Pause
Struggling teachers tend to talk fast with very little space between phrases. They also pepper their speech with ums and ahs, fearing that if they don’t fill the silence, then their students will.
Add to it the overwhelming need to narrate and over-explain and repeat themselves again and again, and you have the perfect recipe for excitability.
You see, the constant chatter is disconcerting to students. It causes nervousness and boredom and the desire to tune you out in favor of those around them.
Simply pausing—often and sometimes lengthily—increases the power of your words.
It makes you more interesting. It saves students the bandwidth they need to fully take in what you have to say. It stops the turning and racing of their thoughts and enables them to settle in and just listen.
3. Stop
Watching a teacher move and bustle around the room all day is both exhausting and nerve-wracking to students. Many teachers think it causes them to pay better attention.
But the opposite is true.
It causes them to grow weary, lose focus, and look away.
The solution is to stop and stand in one place, especially when giving instructions or providing important information. This will draw eyes and ears to you.
It will pull your students’ attention away from every little distraction in the environment and focus it on what matters.
4. Reduce
Most teachers talk too much and struggling teachers talk way too much. The result is that within a short period of time, ten minutes even, the flood of information becomes overwhelming to students.
They can only take in so much.
They can only pick out and decipher what’s important for so long before they completely tune you out. Your voice then becomes background noise that merely agitates and inspires their own chatter.
If you can cut your talking by one third, you’ll notice a dramatic difference in attentiveness. Your students will have time to process, ponder, and comprehend.
And they’ll come to know that everything you say is worth listening to.
5. Slow
Excitability is like listening to a song played at twice the speed. It’s like running errands on one too many cups of coffee or watching a sugar high romp in a birthday party bounce house.
A sure way to quell an overstimulated class is to simply slow down.
Talk slower. Move slower. Take your time between transitions. Never move on until you’re getting exactly what you want from your students.
Remarkably, you’ll find that not only will your class be calmer and more focused, but you’ll get a lot more done. Listening and performance will also improve, and you’ll have more time than you ever thought possible.
Bad Juju
Excitability is an oft-hidden but potent cause of misbehavior. It’s an ever-present hum that once taken hold, never leaves your classroom.
Unless, that is, you recognize it for the scourge that it is and deal with it at its source.
The five strategies above are proven to calm and soothe even the most frazzled classrooms. They rid the air of bad juju. They settle unsettled minds.
They eliminate the desire to fidget and squirm and talk a mile a minute.
But they must become not merely strategies you try once in a while or when things get particularly chaotic. Rather, they must become as much a part of your classroom as the desks and chairs.
And the curriculum you so badly want to be able to teach.

Sunday, September 23, 2018

Monday Motivator #5 2018-19

15 SIMPLE WAYS TO BE A POSITIVE LEADER


When I recently asked a group of 6th grade students, who here is an artist, they all raised their hands. I wondered how many adults would have done the same. We forget there's an artist inside each of us.
When I asked the students, who here is a positive leader, they all raised their hands again.
I then asked them to tell me actions that a positive leader takes. There was no shortage of answers.
They are kind. They help others. They smile. They make you feel better about yourself. They care about others. They inspire and encourage you. They make a difference in the world.
It occurred to me that as adults we also forget there's a positive leader inside each of us a well.
Kids get it and as adults we forget it. 
But it doesn't have to be this way. We just need to remember what we've always known...and do it.
So here are a few simple ways to be the positive leader you are:
Feed Yourself with Positivity
  • It's important to feed yourself because if you don’t have it, you can’t share it.
  • Be thankful. Research shows you can’t be stressed and thankful at the same time. Focus on what you get to do each day instead of what youhave to do. 
  • Smile, it produces more serotonin in your brain.
  • Read The Positive Pledge
  • Exercise daily. It reduces stress and boosts positivity.
  • Get more sleep. You and your body need it.
  • Download our free 11 day plan from The Positive Dog
Feed Others with Positivity 
  • Smile at your co-workers, clients, friends and family. When you smile at someone they produce more serotonin in their brain as well.
  • Recognize a few people this week for the good work they are doing.
  • Write a thank you note to a few co-workers, employees and clients/customers or simply thank them in person.
  • Do something for someone that shows you care about them.
  • Encourage your team this week. 
  • Praise three times as much as you criticize.
  • Implement the 4 C’s. Communicate. Connect. Commit. Care.
  • Decide to change the world in your own unique way.
These are just a few ideas. Try one or more this week. I promise they are so easy a kid can do it. Best of all by the end of the week you’ll feel like the positive leader you are…and you may even tell people you’re an artist painting the world with positivity. 

Monday, September 17, 2018

Monday Motivator #4 2018-19

Planning for Love


Planning for Love
In the 2003 movie, Mona Lisa Smile, Maggie Gyllenhaal plays college student, Giselle Levy, who is having an affair with a married man. Kirsten Dunst plays a friend, Betty Warren, who berates and shames Giselle for her promiscuous behavior. But in the midst of Betty’s expressions of loathing, Giselle does not get angry or defensive. Instead, she sees Betty’s need for love.
From the moment we saw the movie, we wondered how Giselle did that: How did Giselle avoid defensiveness? How did she know that Betty’s anger was not about her? https://youtu.be/6zjqv_aK_m4
Of late, we have been thinking about unconditional love and what that really looks like. We think that Giselle’s love for Betty is a powerful demonstration of how love can heal and what it means to love unconditionally. But where does the strength to do that come from? And what does this have to do with teaching?
As it turns out, unconditional love is gratifying. In fact, practicing it activates reward centers in the brain, releasing dopamine. The alternative, of course, is retributive anger. In The Heartmath Solution, Doc Childre and Howard Martin describe the disequilibrium we create for our hearts and other vital organs when we are angry or stressed, which can lead to bone loss, reductions in muscle mass, memory impairment, the destruction of brain cells, weight gain, heart disease, and more. Childre and Howard define stress as:
… the body and mind’s response to any pressure that disrupts their normal balance. It occurs when our perceptions of events don’t meet our expectations and we don’t manage our reaction to the disappointment. (p. 55)
So, we should choose love, if for no other reason, out of self-interest.
Now imagine that Giselle had responded angrily to Betty in the scene from Mona Lisa Smile. It is likely that a shouting match would have ensued and neither of them would have gotten what they needed. (We realize this is a hypothetical scenario involving fictitious characters, but suspend disbelief with us for just a minute.) Instead, Giselle chose to love Betty unconditionally, which gave her a dopamine reward and also helped Betty, who had momentarily become the small version of herself, step back into the loving person she really was.
But how did Giselle do that? Well, she knew herself. Giselle knew she wasn’t a whore, and no amount of Betty saying it was so would make it true. This is powerful, friends. Giselle knew and loved herself so much that Betty could not insult her.
And what does this have to do with teaching? In her blog post “What Happened When I Committed to Loving My Students Unconditionally,” Kyle Redford writes about her decision to see student “misbehaviors” as manifestations of their smaller selves, not definitions of their core beings. She persists in seeing their true Selves, even when those higher Selves are camouflaged by anger or fear. Redford writes, “I wanted my love for my students to be super-resilient and a little bit blind … . I wanted a love that could embrace unappealing characteristics and behaviors with humor, tranquility, and curiosity. It would not be transactional or affected by my students’ daily or cumulative decisions. It would accept that they would all disappoint me at various times, some more than others. My disappointment would simply inform my work, not soil it.” Redford enlisted support from her husband, who kept her accountable as she dedicated a year to, what she referred to as, a “Love Plan.” You can read about the students’ amazing response to her love.
We would like to suggest that, enacting a “Love Plan” would not only bring out the best in your students (or your children, your mate, your colleagues, etc.), but it would also make you happier. Talking about how children are broken or lost or bad is stressful. Loving them, even when they act in ways that make them seem unlovable, releases dopamine into your system, making you feel good. Who doesn’t want to feel good in life’s stressful moments?
So as you are thinking about your 2018-2019 school year, why not plan for love? Seriously. Make a plan.

Sunday, September 9, 2018

Monday Motivator #3 2018-19

A lovely little girl was holding two apples with both hands.

Her mother came in and softly asked her little daughter with a smile; 
my sweetie, could you give your mom one of your two apples?

The girl looked up at her mom for some seconds, then she suddenly took a quick bite on one apple, and then quickly on the other.

The mom felt the smile on her face freeze. She tried hard not to reveal her disappointment.

Then the little girl handed one of her bitten apples to her mom,and said: mommy, here you are. This is the sweeter one.


No matter who you are, how experienced you are, and how knowledgeable you think you are, 
always delay judgement.  
Give others the privilege to explain themselves.  
What you see may not be the reality.
Never conclude for others.

http://www.dailytenminutes.com/2015/08/story-lovely-girl-with-two-apples.html

Monday, September 3, 2018

Monday Motivator #2 2018-19

Listening to Children
Shari Frost
Contributor, Choice Literacy


"Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply."
Stephen R. Covey

I was enjoying one of those magical moments of teaching, the kind of moment that all teachers live for. I was sitting at a table with some of my first graders and we were writing together. Occasionally, someone would read a line aloud and we’d admire how beautiful it was. Someone else would share an idea and we’d agree that it was brilliant. Or someone would ask a question and we’d generously share our wisdom with our fellow writer. The child who was sitting right next to me stopped, put her pencil down, looked up at me, and said, “Mrs. Frost, how do you make babies?”

I quickly examined my options. What should I say? What should I do? How could I explain it? Should I explain it? Should I suggest that she ask her mother when she gets home? Should I try to distract her, maybe send her off on an errand to sharpen pencils or get more markers? While I was grasping at straws for my next move, the child on the other side of her leaned over, looked at her paper, and said, “Change the /y/ to /i/ and add /-es/.” The child who asked the question thanked her classmate and continued writing. I let out a huge sigh of relief and tried to continue with my writing, too.

This incident occurred decades ago, and I have recounted it many times, always to the complete delight of my audience. Looking back on it, I now see it for what it truly was – a real teaching misstep. A child asked me a question. My first inclination was to give her an immediate answer. It is a rather antiquated view of teaching – the teacher as the all-knowing dispenser of knowledge.

The situation called for more listening, not answers from me. I could have said, “Hmm . . . say more about that,” instead of rushing off in pursuit of the answer. Listening is the most powerful tool in our teacher’s toolbox. Unfortunately, it is often pushed aside for its noisier, more demanding counterpart. Even in situations where the prospect of providing an answer doesn't induce discomfort, we often charge full steam ahead.

I just wonder, how many times have I rattled off answers, instead of allowing children to find their own answers? I wonder how many of “my answers” were quickly forgotten because they came so quickly. How many opportunities were lost for a child to discover something for herself?



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